Pulling Out Wedgies (R & R: Part IV)

So if you have been following my blog you know that I have been talking about wedgies and that everything comes back to wedgies.

Now you've identified them... sooo....how do you pull out your wedgies? First we need to get rid of the source of the wedgies which is Sarcasm which then allows negative thoughts and negative emotions into our mind.

Emily and I have decided that the easiest way to stop the wedges is to make the tip of the wedge blunt, meaning that it can't be push into our mind to begin with. This means that we had to get rid of sarcasm. NOT SO EASY... It's amazing how many times we used sarcasm in our home. Probably 10 to 20 times PER DAY! That's a lot and that was for each of us. They weren't always sarcasm toward each other but most of them were toward someone we knew. So we had to really focus and make it rule #1 in our home. And it still is. Once we started getting rid of the sarcasm, joking, eye-rolling, etc it was so much easier to identify and kill the negative thoughts and emotions.

To get rid of negative thoughts and emotions we needed to get them out of our head. I'll say it again... OUT OF OUR HEAD. Not just push it to some recess of our mind but just plain "take out the trash". The way that we do that is by putting it down on paper. You have to sit down with pen and paper or type it on your computer or whatever and just get it down. The thoughts that pester and bug you the most are the ones you are going to go after first. Here is your first tool for getting these thoughts out.

1. Get a piece of paper and draw a line down the middle 
2. On the left side at the top write the word "Negative" 
3. On the right side at the top write the word "Positive"
4. Then off to the far left write #1 and the number one negative thought that gets your attention in your mind.
5. Across from that write the exact opposite plus something good about yourself.
   (i.e. Negative: You're not good enough. - Positive: I am good enough and I am confident.)
6. Repeat step 5 until you get to #10 
7. After you have all 10 then tear the page out or print it off and crumple it up.
8. Finally take it out to your BBQ and set it on fire and WATCH IT BURN!

If you take the time and do each one of the steps EVERY DAY then your negative thoughts will begin to disappear. There is something psychological in your brain that happens when you take on the negative thoughts directly out and combat them with positive thoughts. Plus you wrote down twice as many good things for your brain to pick up and put into the space that was there. Then when you go burn it you can literally see the negative thought being consumed by fire. 

Eventually the thoughts on your top ten list will disappear and you can replace them on your list with the next thing that bugs you the most. But now your saying to your self ... "But I have more than ten things that really bug me at any one time. Is there something else I can do? YES there is. Tune in again soon to find out what the next tool is to get rid of these negative thoughts